sunshine on a message board

best quote i've seen in a really long time:

"It doesn't get easier. You get stronger."

I need to post this here so I can look at it whenever I need to.

DIANAKAMPA

BERRYBINX --

Sorry to hear abour your break-up. That is sad that you stopped hanging out with your mutual friends- I am sure that they understand, but they probably miss you, too!!

I think that if you feel up to it, you should GO to the party! Esp. since you feel like you wantto get out/meet some new people,etc. I would recommend that you bring a friend or two with you that can be your support in case seeing the Ex is really difficult. You guys can figure out some kind of signal that means, "Um, I need to get the heck out of here now!" Having a plan may ease your anxiety before you go, since you know that if you see him and it's too hard to stay, you can leave.

Also, if you drink, watch yourself (and maybe have your wing-girls watch you, too), to make sure that you don't get too tipsy and then possibly get more emotional (been there, done that, not pretty -- esp. with mascara on!).

One other thing - if you see The Boy and he seems like he's having an awesome time, it's not necessarily true. So, don't assume if he's living it up at the party that he's 'over you,' or anything -- chances are, he's probably still dealing with it (despite the fact that he's totally LAMESAUCE for breaking up with you, you fabulous girl, you!!!!).

Okay, that's enough of MHO.

Good luck -- keep posting when you need support (this is a new daily thread), and lean on your friends - that's what they're for!!!

((((BERRYBINX))))

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reading this helped me so much. i smiled, i felt a little teary eyed, but best of all i felt confident. it's amazing how a little bit of positivity can motivate so much...i really feel good about this now. i can handle it, and i'm going to be better for it.

because...


"It doesn't get easier. You get stronger."

:) Thank you